Your Home is your Kingdom

Are you the type of person that likes to open their home to others? Whether it be friends or family?

I'm that type of person and after certain events that I underwent, I have changed my mindset on allowing people into my home. Your home is your private sanction between you and your spouse along with your children or pets if you have any.

When you allow people to enter into your domain, you allow for disrespect and your privacy to disappear within your OWN home. I've had individuals try to make their own rules in MY home. I've also had people TRY to destroy my belongings or invade my privacy with walking in on me, or taking certain things that don't belong to them, invading my privacy with things I have stored in my phone, and even amount to trying to hurt my dogs, my spouse, or even myself in the process. I suggest if these type of events transpire in your house to put your foot down immediately because it will get worse once you don't address the disrespect. Please, make sure the disrespect never occurs again, especially in your kingdom.

Whenever I was growing up and even today, I always had family members and even some friends that never wanted to open up their homes, which I would always question why that was. Again, I had to learn the hard way from my own experiences as to why you should never open up your home no matter how much you want to be a good person. I lived and I learned (the hard way). My doors will remain closed to anyone and everyone from this day forward with some exceptions of course to best friends, and family only.

You have some people in this world that are literally out to get what you and your spouse have built and have. Y'all have watched Forensic Files right? You think these friends or family are really there for your best interest and instead they want what you have and will do anything to get that. These people are known to have the traits such as jealousy, greed, and envy for what you have and what you continue to build. These traits are noticeable whenever you see everything they are trying to build and matches everything that has come from your home. You also allow this type of behavior to enter into your home and little by little permit their behavior until you can't control it anymore in your own home. So what now? You're a prisoner in your own home? No! You are the owner, not anyone else. This is your home!! This is something you worked hard for, no one else did. Remember that whenever someone wants to get mouthy and tell you what they are going to do in your home. Don't get discouraged about hurting their feelings if you have to address their behavior or worse you may have to even kick them out and never allow them in your home AGAIN. Your feelings, your home, your spouse, and pets or children come first no one else, and much less someone that is just a "friend." So why allow yourself to be overthrown by someone that has no business taking over something that is not theirs in the first place much less someone that has no business to even make rules in your home? If people can't follow your rules or respect the rules you have, they shouldn't be allowed to enter into your KINGDOM. Point blank.

You also have people that will try to out do everything you are doing because they overheard you and your spouse talking. It shouldn't be an issue for you and your spouse to talk freely in your own home right? Yeah well, wrong. You have people that only want to enter into your domain to overhear or be apart of the conversation of you guys expressing your ideas because they can't be creative on their own. If you buy a new phone, they will buy a new phone better than the phone you bought. If you buy a new car, they will also buy a new car that is better than the car you got. If you buy a house, they will also buy a house. If you plan a family vacation, they too want to attend that vacation. If you get a new job, they will try to replace you at yours. If you own multiple properties and want to build a business, they also want too as well. This is why you need to keep your home PRIVATE from everybody and anybody no matter who it is. It's called BOUNDARIES and make sure you have them! Your home is where you plan for the future, where you lay out your goals/ideas and talk about your goals/ideas to your spouse freely with no judgment or anyone trying to take your goals/ideas and make them their own. Privacy is huge.

All the homeowners can understand where I am coming from and possibly already incorporate this particular rule: of not allowing anyone to enter their home. If you allow for people to enter your home, make sure you're ready for the disrespect from that person to you, your spouse, yours dogs or children. It happens every single time whether it be from friends or family. It always happens and things escalate really FAST. I can't express how many times I've been disrespected in my own home. Take my advice, please. Watch Forensic Files, people get crazy and want to do crazy things to us good people. I would like to apologize to everyone I thought was "rude" whenever they didn't open their doors to their friends or family, now I understand 100%......